Frequently Asked Questions

Below you will find information about the mediation process as well as logistics (cost, policies, etc.).

The Mediation Process

Logistics

The Mediation Process

What are the advantages of mediation?

There are many. Read about them on the main page.

How do I prepare for mediation?

I will send you an email with instructions for how to prepare for your mediation and will speak with you over the phone before the mediation to help you prepare. Typically, I will send you a list of questions to reflect on before your mediation and will discuss these with you. You should bring any paperwork or supporting documents regarding your case as well as any information you will need in order to reach an agreement. Also, please don’t come hungry. 

What can I expect during the mediation?

Mediation is a process in which you have the assistance of a 3rd party to come to an agreement yourself. The process of mediation can vary based on circumstances. Typically I will talk over the phone with each party to understand the issues and to help you clarify your hopes for the mediation process. On the day of mediation, each party is given the opportunity to briefly articulate (uninterrupted) what they see as the major issues. We then jointly identify the issues to be discussed and decide on an order of topic discussion. Depending on how well you are working together, and the circumstances, we may stay together in one room or separate as it benefits the process. Typically, agreement is reached through a process of understanding each other and brainstorming creative potential solutions.

Do you evaluate our evidence and tell us who is wrong?

No. Mediators are neutrals, meaning we do not evaluate the merits of your case and do not take sides. I will make no decisions about your case, I will not tell you what you should do, and I will not make judgments about who is right or wrong. You are in mediation to reach an agreement between yourselves with the help of a 3rd party. Mediation is about empowering you to make important decisions over your own circumstances, it is not the role of the mediator to do this for you. 

Will you tell us what outcome would be likely if we go to court?

No. I do not give legal advice. You should consult a lawyer for advice about what to expect in court. 

What if I don’t want to continue with mediation after it starts?

Mediation is voluntary. You are not required to mediate and you may leave before the mediation is complete. Typically, when someone wants to stop a mediation it is because they are experiencing intense emotions. Most people who take a few moments to calm down are able to continue with the mediation and are happy they did not leave. You can ask to take a break at any point you feel you need it.

What if I am feeling unhappy about the process during the mediation or that it is not fair?

You should speak up!  Advocate for yourself if you feel you are not being heard, are being dominated by the other party, that I am not remaining neutral, etc. It is much easier for me to address your concerns if I am aware of them. Ask for what you need. 

Can I bring someone else to the mediation?

If you want to bring a non-party to the mediation this desire needs to be disclosed in advance and requires the agreement of all parties. Depending on the dynamics of those involved, the addition of another person can be quite helpful or it can undermine the entire process. If you want to bring another person give thought to why and how it will impact the resolution process. 

Will you push us to come to an agreement in mediation?

No. I will help you come to an agreement as best as I can but it is ultimately up to you whether or not you do so.  I only want you to come to an agreement if you are fully invested and willing to uphold your end of the agreement. Also, not all cases are best decided in mediation. For various reasons, the consequences of not resolving your case may be in your best interests. My job is to help you toward the best outcome for you, which may or may not be an agreement in mediation. 

Do I have to sign an agreement during mediation?

No, mediation is voluntary. Signing an agreement is voluntary. 

Who files the legal paperwork?

You are responsible for all legal paperwork. I do not file anything with the courts. 

What if I want to review an agreement with my lawyer who is not present?

It is not uncommon for parties to want to review an agreement with their lawyer before fully committing.  You are not obligated to commit to an agreement during mediation. 

Logistics

Who are you and what qualifies you to be our mediator?

You can read all about me on this page.

Where will the mediation take place?

It depends on the case. I will work with you to do the mediation in a location that is convenient for you.

What times are available for the mediation?

I can frequently accommodate your needs for scheduling. This includes nights and weekends.

How much does it cost?

My fee structure for most cases is as follows:

$150 initiation fee, generally split between the parties. This includes a phone conversation (20-30 min) with each party prior to the mediation to assist me in understanding the dispute and help you prepare for the mediation. This fee also includes time to schedule the mediation and for processing paperwork relevant to setting up mediation. 

$150/hour, generally split between the parties, for mediation time, 2-3 hour minimum depending on the case. An additional fee applies if parties request separate rooms for the mediation.

How long does a mediation last?

It really depends on the situation. We will schedule the mediation for 2-3 hours depending on the complexity of your case. At the end of the scheduled time, we will check-in and decide if we are close enough to an agreement to continue for a little longer. Going more than 3 hours in one sitting is generally unproductive so we will not go too much longer. If more time is needed we can schedule another session.

What if we cancel the mediation after it is scheduled?

If you cancel at least 24 hours before the mediation is scheduled any payment you have made will be returned to you minus payment for time already spent on the case and any non-refundable charges I incurred for reserving a room.  

Do you offer reduced rates?

Yes. I offer reduced rates for non-profit organizations, for cases that generate a high number of hours, and for unique cases that allow me to broaden my mediation experience or otherwise capture my interest. If your income qualifies, many cities and counties offer free services.